Why Do We Say "My Kids?"

Just think about how clearer our minds would be without the burden of attaching to people and things. Eliminating from our thoughts and concerns the things outside our selves that we call "mine." Attachments, as discussed in the previous entry, play a huge role in the consciousness of duality that we are experiencing at present. The Christ consciousness of the new planet earth will bring us a freedom from attachments. A freedom from attaching ourselves to anyone or anything. There are a couple of more examples of what attachments are that I will describe in this article. The next one being the attachment to the past and the future.

The Future and the Past

Many of us are attached to the past. This attachment can cause a lack of awareness of what is happening to them right now. They desire to label or define themselves by things that have happened to them or others in the past. They live in the past. Some long to change the past. Most live in fear that what happened in the past can and will happen again. This fear inhibits them from enjoying life in the present. They have a blind spot when discussing things that are happening to them now because they relate everything to past experiences and outcomes. They are who they were and not who they are now. This attachment can become obsessive for them causing them great difficulties relating to people or events in the present.

The opposite form of this attachment is living life in the future. They have expectations of how things will be or should be in their lives. They always are looking ahead and planning what will be instead of enjoying what is. Of course with these expectations can come great letdowns if the results are not realized. Anxiety and worry about what if this happens or what if that happens control their thoughts and actions in the present making it impossible to relax and enjoy life in the now. This is a form of attachment that is abound with fear. Constantly playing the "what if" scenario can precipitate a never ending cycle of trying to foresee what "will" happen to them instead of seeing what "is" happening.

These examples of attachment are basically the same. They are fear based and inhibit the enjoyment of the present. They occupy a large amount of their thoughts leaving little time for seeing their present situation.

The new planet earth will bring an awareness that the only thing that matters is the present. The only thing that is real is right now. The past cannot be changed and the future is yet to be created so why even think about them. Can you imagine how much clearer our minds can be if we stop living in the past or worrying about the future!

The last example of attachment is the toughest. It is a concept that we have to really examine and dig deep to make sense of it and ultimately adopt. The attachment to "our" children.

Children

As parents we like to think of children as "ours". Society dictates to us that we are responsible for their behaviors and the kind of people that they will become. We take ownership of them and attach their every word and action to us. In divorce situations they are often perceived as things that belong to one parent or the other. We have expectations of them. We impose our beliefs on them. We do not recognize their individuality until some law says they we can. We worry about what other people think of them as they are extensions of our selves. We spend sleepless nights worrying about what they are doing. When they don't act the way we expect them to we get angry with them and try to force them into doing what we think they should.

Why is this example of attachment any different than any other I have offered in these articles? Are children "things" that we own? Are they not human angels that create their own realities like we are? Can we really expect to change them to do exactly what we want them to?

Anyone that is or has been a parent may relate to this easier than someone who is not. Does it sometimes feel like we are banging our heads against the wall when we try to get children to live up to our expectations? When a child really wants to do something do they usually find a way? Can we tie them up in their rooms and watch them 24 hours a day?

This attachment causes more grief and worry to people than any other. We are programmed to believe that this attachment is one that can never change. It is our duty.

The new planet earth will bring an awareness that children are no different than anyone else. Age is an arbitrary number that means very little. They are individual souls with individual paths that they are creating for themselves. These paths are no different than an adults path. They have highs and lows and need to learn lessons just like any adult. They, to me, have more insight that lots of adults and I like to refer to young children as "real people."

I look at children and think that this is what the new human will be like. Uninhibited. Saying whatever they feel, not concerned with how they will be perceived by others. Thoroughly enjoying the present without any worry of the future or attachment to their past. Using their intuition to feel out people and situations. Great teachers for how to enjoy life and to be. Wise souls until we program them and fill them full of rules. How can we own them?

When we will realize that we can not change their path for them. All we can do is love them unconditionally and be there when they ask for help or guidance. But only if they ask, not to try to impose our will on them. We will realize that we do not own them just as we will realize we cannot own any person. When we realize that what they choose to do is not a reflection on our abilities as parents or people. When the practice of attaching the actions, the words or the outcomes of "our" children to us is seen as an futile waste of energy. When we realize the anxiety that we as parents put our selves through over our perceived need to be judged as "good parents." When the new human perspective of shedding attachments is here ours and the children's lives will enable us to be free to be.

As I have said, this aspect or description of attachment is the toughest one to examine and possibly change as we are so programmed to be "responsible" for our children. If we can only understand that by claiming this responsibility, it only serves to take the children's power away from them accomplishing imbalance for them and us as parents.

Ownership

Attachment is ownership. Ownership of anything outside our selves will have no place on the new planet earth. When the Europeans came to North America in the 15th century and told the native people that they were claiming ownership of the land, the natives could not understand what that meant. They didn't believe that someone could own mother earth. The concept of owning anything was so incomprehensible to them that they, in most cases, just allowed it to happen without resisting.

Ownership breeds separation. It creates fences and borders. It starts wars to defend land. Separation is not a part of unity consciousness. Once we shift from duality consciousness to Christ consciousness, the practice of attachment will follow. Freedom from attachment to all things is the fourth attribute for the human on the new planet earth. The desire to be free from the need for "stuff" may be the major push that will evolve us into the next level of human evolution.

It appears to be coming to a head right now as more and more people are realizing that the accumulation of things doesn't give us fulfillment. We are getting very close to the critical mass needed for all of us to step up to next level. We will be doing this together. With all of us having the attributes that I have been describing in this article series. If we can eliminate all the examples of attachment that I have discussed, the resulting inner peace and quietness of mind that will follow will allow us to enjoy every second of every day on the new planet earth.